What is self-sufficiency and how to become a self-sufficient person

 

Dependence on the opinions, decisions and attitudes of others strongly affects a person's life. We are dealing with experts on how self-sufficiency allows us to rely on ourselves rather than others. What are the signs of self-sufficiency and ways to develop it? What is self-sufficiency?

Self-sufficiency is a person's ability to adapt to life without the help of others, whether they are with him or not. He does not have resentment, expectations, or an urgent need for someone's support: a self-sufficient person can make decisions and take responsibility for their results. I believe that self-sufficient can be called someone who does not need the constant support of others, is able to make decisions and act independently, provide self-support, and is comfortable and interested in being alone with himself: "If he needs other people's help, he won't be afraid to ask for it. A self-sufficient person is not afraid of relationships, intimacy, he may also be interested in the company of friends. That is, it is important that a person does not proceed from fears, but from a sense of self-confidence. He has a safe type of attachment. He is able to build healthy relationships both with himself and with people around him." A self-sufficient person does not depend on others either in physical or in psycho-emotional aspects. He is not a hermit and is not self-contained, but he is able to live at the expense of inner support without searching for it in the outside world. Self-sufficiency allows you to behave confidently and openly. Such people tend to attract others. They are not offended by negative assessment and criticism, because the main authority of a self-sufficient person is himself. Types of self-sufficiency

The concept of self-sufficiency includes several categories: Social self-sufficiency implies that a person has a life in which he does what he loves and which is interesting to him. He chooses what to do and how much time to spend on it, rather than waiting for other people's advice. A socially self-sufficient person has goals, hobbies, and a desire to develop their talents and reach new heights. Economic self-sufficiency is the ability to provide oneself with everything necessary at the household level. Most adults learn this skill sooner or later if they don't stay with their parents, who cook, do the laundry, and clean up after them like they do for children. Psychological self-sufficiency is the ability not to feel painful attachment or dependence on another person. A person knows what to do with himself and will not sit waiting for a call from someone who can diversify his evening with an interesting offer. This does not mean that such a person does not have relatives - he feels comfortable both with other people and alone with himself.

A self-sufficient person: signs

Based on these categories, several habits, skills, and character traits can be distinguished that are characteristic of self-sufficient people.: - independence - material, domestic and emotional;

- self-respect and self-confidence, allowing you to take into account your needs and achieve your goals; the ability to take responsibility for words and deeds;

- the ability to enjoy both solitude and the company of other people, not to be intrusive, not to try to "teach life" and give unsolicited advice;

- clear personal boundaries, the ability to delicately and painlessly distance oneself from toxic communication;

- lack of fear of rejection and loneliness;

- stable emotional state, which is little influenced by external factors and anyone's opinion;

- adaptability to new conditions, the ability to communicate easily without expectations and unreasonable demands.

Many of these signs naturally develop over the years, when a person becomes a specialist, realizes his value, learns to build relationships based on mutual respect, rather than the desire to please other people. True self-sufficiency implies self-commitment to action and independence from the environment, but it does not negate the ability to adapt socially, work in a team, and strive for a shared future with a partner. How to become self-sufficient

Becoming self-sufficient is a process of self-discovery and self-acceptance.: "It is important to learn to value yourself not for achievements, but for personal qualities and inner peace. A psychologist helps on this journey by providing tools for introspection and the development of emotional intelligence. But it is important to pay attention to your own feelings, thoughts, desires and learn to be sincere with yourself. To develop psychological self-sufficiency, it is worth paying attention and learning to accept the following aspects in a relationship: - The possibility of mistakes in the decisions made. It is important to realize that misunderstandings and mistakes may occur in a relationship. This should be considered as an opportunity for learning and joint growth. Mutual mistakes help us to understand each other better and create the basis for a more harmonious relationship.

- The inevitability of problems. There will always be new challenges and difficulties in the couple's life. It is important to realize that this is not a sign of failure, but a natural part of the journey together. The ability to solve problems together becomes a key element of a harmonious relationship, where it is important to support each other in difficult moments.

- Experimenting with new ways of making decisions. In a relationship, you should be flexible and open to new ways to solve emerging issues. Trying out new approaches to communication and problem solving can strengthen personal connection and make relationships more stable. It also contributes to the personal growth of each of the partners, enriching the common experience."

- "Normally, a person becomes self-sufficient naturally by adulthood. But there are many circumstances that can interfere with this process. For example, a child's negative experience, as a result of which an unsafe type of attachment was formed, which can prevent a person from feeling calm and safe. These can be psychological and physical addictions. There may be self-doubt, high levels of anxiety, and more. If a person feels dependent on other people, he is afraid to be alone, he cannot make independent decisions or stick to his choice, he feels inferior and unhappy alone with himself, then it is important to figure out exactly what reasons prevent him from being a self-sufficient person."

What is the difference between self-sufficiency and confidence?

"By making a choice in favor of self-sufficiency and self-acceptance, a person takes a step towards significantly improving their life. This choice allows a person to accept himself regardless of external perception, reduces anxiety and improves the quality of life. A self-sufficient person gains emotional stability.

Self-sufficiency and self-confidence seem similar at first glance, but in fact they are significantly different. Self-confidence often depends on external factors: success, achievements, recognition. Self-sufficiency comes from within and does not depend on external perception. It's about accepting yourself for who you are, regardless of the circumstances. While self-confidence focuses on external perception and respect in society, self-sufficiency allows a person to value themselves for their inner qualities and rely on personal values. Self-sufficiency and self-acceptance do not depend on success or public recognition. They are based on the principle of "I am me" by right of their birth and existence."

Self-sufficiency in relationships

"In a relationship, self-sufficiency leads to greater harmony and understanding. Self-sufficient people do not seek to change their partner, but accept him for who he is. This reduces conflicts related to control and manipulation. If one or both partners become self-sufficient in a couple, it usually leads to a healthier and more balanced relationship. While overconfidence often leads to rivalry, envy, jealousy, and conflict. Attempts to remake a partner for themselves and the partner's assessment, even positive, can result in control and manipulation, alienating people from each other. It is important to distinguish between the desire for love and its urgent need for a relationship. A partner's love is a natural emotional support, but it should not become a source of anxiety. In a healthy relationship, the feeling of love gives confidence and inspiration without causing constant anxiety. Self-acceptance and a sense of self-sufficiency do not depend on the love of a partner. Understanding that love will not disappear due to temporary difficulties promotes stable and harmonious relationships and removes anxiety and anxiety, often associated with the need to be loved. Traditionally, confidence and high self-esteem depend on external factors and feedback. They require infallible behavior and obey rational facts. However, psychologists and psychotherapists who seek to develop clients' self-confidence may be going the wrong way. Self-sufficiency involves accepting that decisions can be wrong, problems will always exist, and it's worth trying new solutions." What aspects should I pay attention to?

For independent work, it may be useful to evaluate: - How much a person depends on the opinions of others, whether they are parents, spouses or bloggers.

- How easily a person makes decisions about himself and his life and acts according to these decisions.

- What or who influences them.

- Whether a person relies on their values, implements them, or relies on the values of other people.

- What happens if a person finds himself alone, what thoughts and feelings appear to him during loneliness.

- To what extent a person has developed the skills of self-regulation and independent living; is there anything that is not working yet and is there something that a person can rely on himself.

But while developing self-sufficiency, it is important to remember that a person should not live completely alone. Refusing the help of other people, close relationships, and joint activities — all this does not make a person self-sufficient, but speaks to some psychological difficulties."